Part of building strong relationships is having good, open, and regular communication. This can be done by sharing your thoughts and feelings with family, friends and trusted work colleagues. Some people find sharing personal information a natural and easy thing to do. Others might need support from a health professional or community group in order to feel more comfortable opening up, the quality of your relationships is just as important as the number of people in your social network. Good mental health is linked to having a supportive network that you relax and have fun with, as well as call on in difficult times. We can sometimes be so busy that we lose touch with others, but making an effort to stay in touch can have huge benefits. To be able to complete the harmonious relationship puzzle and have words like rapport, synchronicity, and harmony describing your intimate relationship, you must recognize how mental health impacts your relationship.
And while yes, each relationship is unique, there are still many things that can affect a relationship:
GUILT A different and valuable perspective for understanding guilt in relationships comes from Roy Braumeister , Arlene Stillwell and Todd Heathertons 1994 article Guilt: An Interpersonal Approach, which appeared in the journal Psychological Bulletin in 1994. They define guilt as the distress felt when we have done harm to another through a transgression or an inequity. They note that whereas guilt can be felt toward anyone, it is strongest in close personal relationships because such relationships are characterized by certain expectations of mutual concern, trust, and love. In a personal relationship, for example, lying, a refusal to help, a dismissal of the others wishes, or evidence of an affair is likely to cause more pain and more guilt because of the existing commitment expectations.From an interpersonal perspective, the guilt is generated by two sources: empathy for the suffering we have caused in our partner and anxiety that the transgression will result in rejection or destruction of the relationship. The apology is often the attempted and expected dynamic of repair.
CODEPENDENT RELATIONSHIPS The term ‘codependency’ is often used casually to describe relationships where a person is needy, or dependent upon, another person. There is much more to this term than everyday clinginess. Codependent relationships are far more extreme than this. A person who is codependent will plan their entire life around pleasing the other person, or the enabler.In its simplest terms, a codependent relationship is when one partner needs the other partner, who in turn, needs to be needed. This circular relationship is the basis of what experts refer to when they describe the “cycle” of codependency.The codependent’s self-esteem and self-worth will come only from sacrificing themselves for their partner, who is only too glad to receive their sacrifices.
CONTROLING BEHAVIOUR People often think that the controlling behavior in an relationship starts some time into the relationship. Many victims say that at the start they felt that they had met their soul mate, Mr. Right, or Miss Perfect. They had found someone who understood them, someone who got them like no one ever had before. The victim says that they felt really special because this fantastic new person in their lives was actually interested in them. They asked questions, they listened, they wanted to know all about them. The victims report that this person treated them like royalty, giving them compliments, time, gifts, attention and there was a whole smorgasbord of good feelings that went along with everything.
In the end no relationship is perfect and of us have to make certain compromises for the person we love but it’s the matter of how much? Is it?
- Arsh Shikalgar